I recently spoke with a fellow writer, someone also in their 40s, about how we’re just…tired of living like this. I honestly don’t feel like I’m asking for too much. When I look at how other folks my age live their lives, it’s not just the ones able to afford fancy holidays, nice cars, or whatever the ‘big ticket’ items might be. It’s not that I look to influencers and think I should be living that life. Actually, we know both lives are funded in a big way by credit cards anyway…I just want to be able not to worry so much. I want to….feel like I can stop living my life like I’m a student or in my early 20s.
Oof. Yeah, me too. While I am married, my wife doesn't work outside the house, so we're just on my income. Even if I had a relationship with my parents, I'd more likely be left with debt than an inheritance. I'm still paying for my own college degrees (since I wasn't able to manage going until I was a "mature student"), and I have no idea how we will pay for our kids to attend college. I'm trapped in a very good-paying job, but it's never enough, and there aren't enough hours in the day to work a second job and still stay awake, notwithstanding some disability stuff I am coming to terms with. It's all... exhausting.
Big big hugs and recognition - "Unlike others who lose a parent and gain an inheritance, we just got…20 years of one income instead of two." Sooooo understand that! Mum was a school dinner lady, dad has his first of many heart attacks when I was still in junior school. Before I left senior school he had minimal benefits coming in due to his complicated UK status (the fight to get some evidence of his date of birth for pension was 🤯) When my dad died, mum having died five years earlier, I inherited.... his winter fuel allowance arrived and paid for a sofa 🙄
Oof. Yeah, me too. While I am married, my wife doesn't work outside the house, so we're just on my income. Even if I had a relationship with my parents, I'd more likely be left with debt than an inheritance. I'm still paying for my own college degrees (since I wasn't able to manage going until I was a "mature student"), and I have no idea how we will pay for our kids to attend college. I'm trapped in a very good-paying job, but it's never enough, and there aren't enough hours in the day to work a second job and still stay awake, notwithstanding some disability stuff I am coming to terms with. It's all... exhausting.
I wish I could give you oomph. I feel your exhaustion 🫂🫂
Big big hugs and recognition - "Unlike others who lose a parent and gain an inheritance, we just got…20 years of one income instead of two." Sooooo understand that! Mum was a school dinner lady, dad has his first of many heart attacks when I was still in junior school. Before I left senior school he had minimal benefits coming in due to his complicated UK status (the fight to get some evidence of his date of birth for pension was 🤯) When my dad died, mum having died five years earlier, I inherited.... his winter fuel allowance arrived and paid for a sofa 🙄